“You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“The only way to the Place beyond Fear is to do the thing you fear most. This is how to surrender to your best destiny.” Martha Beck

Thinking it Through

This weekend I went to a terrifying and wonderful seminar. Terrifying, because for three days I was forced to do the one thing that has always scared me most… SELL. I love teaching, coaching, listening but when it comes to asking for money I have a truck-load of beliefs holding me back. So here I was, forced to face my fear head-on. The first day I was sure I would lose the breakfast I didn’t have. That evening I knew exactly the beliefs I needed to shift.  I pulled out the tools I’ve learned to change those beliefs and got to work. The next day I begin to enjoy the process in a sick sort of way. More limiting beliefs showed their ugly little faces and that evening I worked through those. By the third day I was almost having fun with the selling process. I started to see it in a different light as I wrapped it in a soft blanket of service.

The whole weekend was a reminder that the quickest way to get past self-sabotage and fear is to face it. Jump in that fire and your limiting beliefs will fly in your face. You won’t have to wonder what is stopping you. You will know!  When you know, you can get the help you need to change those beliefs and move towards your dreams with freedom.

Challenge:

1.  Are you stuck in an area of your life?

2.  What can you do to jump into the fear?

3.  When you do this, what limiting beliefs show up?

4.  Write down those limiting beliefs and get help to change them.

Leanna Fredrich

Life Coach

PS:  What belief is keeping you stuck?  I can help.  Email me at Leanna@AmazingMondays.com



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Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich, Life Coach

Leanna@AmazingMondays.com

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Part 2 of this interview series is all about the blocks that stop us from even taking the time to find our passion-filled work and what to do about it.  I hope you enjoy it!

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich

Life Coach

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Dance with Joy,
Leanna Fredrich, Life Coach
Leanna@AmazingMondays.com

Nothing changes until you do. Unknown

My inner world creates my outer world. T. Harv Eker

Thinking it Through…

We all have stories that we tell over and over. They are the stories that drive our family crazy as we share them at every public get together. However annoying those stories may be to our loved ones, they are usually quite harmless. Unfortunately, many of us have stories which we tell that are devastating to our lives. For example, a friend of mine is always saying how tired she is. (By the way, she has been thoroughly checked out by multiple doctors and has a clean bill of health.) One day I decided to count how many times she mentioned her exhaustion. After I hit a dozen in a half hour I was too worn out to continue! This behavior is called “Story Fondling” by the best-selling author and Coach, Martha Beck. We tell the same story out loud or in the quiet of our minds over and over and over. “I don’t have enough money.” “I’m old.” “I’m not smart.” Sadly enough we are programming our minds with these negative beliefs and as we do, the beliefs become a self-fulfilling prophecy. So often “story fondling” keeps us sad, discouraged and preoccupied with a mournful past or a frightening future. As we run that well-worn story track , we are missing out on opportunities and joy in the present moment.

Think for a minute… Do you spend time “story fondling?” If you are not sure ask a very honest close friend or family member. Is that story serving you in a positive way? My droopy-eyed friend is served in a way by her “exhaustion story.” It gives her a ready made excuse to cop out on life and go to bed. But at what cost? She is missing out on so much and the world is missing out on benefiting from her unique gifts and strengths which she is too tired to share. Take this month to notice your stories and change them to serve you. You are the author of those stories after all so it is your right to change them!

Challenge:

1. What stories are you fondling?
2. Are they serving you in a positive way?
3. If not, then how can you change your stories to positively impact your life?
4. What stories do you need to tell yourself to easily create the life you desire?

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach

PS: If you are trying to change your stories and find yourself stuck email me at Leanna@AmazingMondays.com.

“The great tragedy of life is not death, but what dies inside of us while we live.”
— Norman Cousins

“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in a bud was more painful then the risk it took to blossom.”
— Anais Nin

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild
and precious life?”
– Mary Oliver

“It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power.” Alan Cohen

Thinking it Through…

Have you ever noticed how often people over forty talk about old age? When I really started listening, old-age conversations were everywhere! For example, I was at my son’s Taekwondo school talking to one of the mom’s. She told me that she had always wanted to take Taekwando but now she was too old. Had she ever noticed the couple attending the same school , in their 70′s, enthusiastically earning their black-belts? She had not, because her beliefs about what you can and can’t do after age forty were blinding her. If I had a dollar for every time I heard that someone was too old to start a business or a new career I would be a very rich woman. I was completely shocked as I had a conversation with a healthy, 40ish woman who said that although she would love to travel she was too old to take those kinds of risks! I’ve heard all kinds of “too old” beliefs… I’m too old to fall in love, enjoy amusement parks, learn a new sport, exercise, go back to school… the list goes on. How sad. It is like dieing before you’re dead!

The truth is as a generation we are living longer. Many of us will live to be well into our 90′s. Do we really want to start playing it small and safe when we have fifty more years of life to go?! The way some people are headed by the time they are in their 60′s they won’t leave their houses. I think it is past time to take a look at our beliefs about aging and get clear on how we wish to use the next 50 years. It is so sad to see people shrink and play it safe at the very time when their lives are full of such potential. Usually during the second half of our lives we have more freedom. Our families are almost raised and on their own, we have a wealth of life experience, we know more about ourselves and the world. This is the time to really come into our own and play big. We need to have adventures, take risks that are meaningful to us, and grow, grow, grow. Live while you’re alive!

Challenge:

1. Where in your life are you playing small?

2. What are your beliefs about getting older?

3. Are your beliefs growing or shrinking you?

4. What new beliefs do you need to adopt in order to live a big, meaningful life ?

Dance with Joy,
Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach

“Beliefs are filters for reality- You see the world not as IT IS… but as YOU ARE!” Robert Williams

“The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn.” Gloria Steinem

“If you believe you can or you believe you can’t …you’re right!” Henry Ford


The beliefs we hold in our subconscious are powerful. In fact they are what we base decisions on and live our lives by. Our subconscious, where our beliefs are filed away, controls at least 95% of what we do. We adopted most of our beliefs as very young children and we carry them with us to this day. The way to really take control of your life is to take a good look at your beliefs and decide for yourself if they are serving you well or not.

Coaching Questions:

1. What are some areas in your life that you feel stuck?

2. What are some beliefs you are holding that might be keeping you stuck?

3. What are some new beliefs that you could choose to support you in getting unstuck?

Have a wonderful January!
Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach

PS. I am very excited about a new technique I learned last year to change beliefs at the subconscious level. The process works quickly and easily. I have been using it in my own life as well as my client’s with amazing results. If you are interested call or email me at coach@leannafredrich.com. I’d be happy to answer any questions you might have.