“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” Marianne Williamson

“To change the printout of the body, you must learn to rewrite the software of the mind.” Deepak Chopra

“Ever try to change your mind, only to find out that your mind has a mind of its own?” Robert Williams

Thinking it Through…

Self sabotage. Are you familiar with it? I sure am! I’ve often heard that if you want to grow as a person start your own business or go further in your career then you ever thought you could. Taking a leap like that has the nasty side effect of bringing out more mental blocks and limiting beliefs then you can shake a stick at. I’ll just choose one of my personal favorites to talk about today. This is a belief that has blocked my way so many times that it feels like an old friend (or enemy.) It is the belief that “It is not safe to stand out.” It also ties very neatly with the belief that “It is not right to stand out.” Does this sound familiar to you? In our society we honor those that stand out, at least for good things, and hold them on a pedestal until they fall. Then it’s not pretty. Many of us remember experiences in school where we stood out as special and were quickly put in our place by teachers or peers. Most of us have been exposed to criticisms when we were in positions where we were noticed. Perhaps you heard from your parents or relatives that “The tall blade gets cut first” or ” Don’t get too big for your britches.” No wonder so many of us find ways to disappear and sabotage when our career or business requires us to stand out, speak out and be noticed.

If you can relate to these beliefs you are probably wondering what you can do about it. The first step is to realize that you have the beliefs and take a good look at them. Do they make sense for you now? If you stand out you probably WILL get criticized once in a while. Can you keep yourself safe? Do you have strategies in place so you can handle it? A tool I most often use to remove the power from my limiting beliefs is EFT. It is very simple to learn and extremely effective. Whatever you choose to do, take a good look at your beliefs and make sure they are working for you not against you. It is time to live large, contribute lavishly and enjoy life to its fullest.

Challenge:

1. Are you afraid to stand out? What do you think will happen?

2. How has that belief held you back?

3. When have you sabotaged your success?

4. What is the downside of changing your limiting belief?

5. What new belief will you choose to have?

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach
Leanna@AmazingMondays.com

PS: If you would like to learn how to use EFT please email me for more information. If you would like to work on beliefs that are sabotaging your ability to have work you love go to http://www.amazingmondays.com/products/tia-work.html.

Thinking it Through

This New Year I threw out some of my goals. It was so much fun and I think I lost weight while doing it! I went through all of last year’s goals and found the ones that I had done very little or nothing on. (Not hard to find I’m ashamed to admit.) Any goal I had that met the “no action” criteria I took a careful look at and most of them I just threw out. For example one of my goals was to bond with my boys every Sunday morning by playing sports at the park. That worked really well for awhile but Sunday morning sports disappeared with the first hard frost. I just know from the bottom of my cold feet that I will not take action in the winter on that goal. So I changed it to be a summer one and during the colder months I will bond with them over pancakes by a blazing stove.

Our brain can only handle about 7 goals at one time. Sometimes I think that is stretching it! So it is important to save our energy, creativity and focus for goals we will actually take action on. In order to do that it is important to let those “no action” goals go away. You can always pick them up another time but for now let them go. I can hear some of you saying, “Yes, but I really need to reach that goal!” If it is that important to you, then it is time to do something different. Hire a coach or join a class or be accountable to a group and most of all take action. Goals that just sit there with no action are worse then no goals at all because they drain your valuable energy. So here’s to keeping only goals you are taking action on and tossing out the rest!

Challenge:

1. What are some goals you need to throw out this year?

2. What are the goals you are going to focus on?

3. If you keep an old “no action” goal what are you going to do differently this year?

Dance with Joy,
Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach
http://www.AmazingMondays.com

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach
www.AmazingMondays.com

“The future is called ‘perhaps’ which is the only possible thing to call the future. And the only important thing is not to allow that to scare you.” Tennessee Williams

Fall is one of my favorite seasons, with it’s cool mornings and loads of sunshine. As with the change of each season it is a wonderful time for revaluation and transition. Many of us are afraid of change and avoid it at all costs. The problem with this is that change is inevitable and however much we try to control it, control is simply an illusion. We live with some type of change everyday. It is essential to embrace change in order to have an extraordianry life. Welcome it, cause it. As Summer turns to Fall ask yourself what changes you would like to make in your life? Here’s to a September full of exciting changes!

Coaching Questions:

1. What are 3 changes you would like to make in your life this Fall?

2. What are some of the best changes you have made so far in your life?

3. What did you do to have the guts to change?

4. What can you learn from your past “change-successes” to help you make the necessary changes to your life now?

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich
Success Coach
If you would like Coaching-support as you make changes in your life contact me at Coach@LeannaFredrich.com.

“I just do not hang around anybody that I don’t want to be with. Period. For me, that’s been a blessing, and I can stay positive. I hang around people who are happy, who are growing, who want to learn, who don’t mind saying sorry or thank you…and [are] having a fun time.” John Assaraf

Coaching Questions:

1. Take a look at the five people you hang around with most. Are they motors or anchors?

2. What are the traits you are looking for in your ideal friends and coworkers? Write them down.

3. Who do you need to be to attract the people you want in your life?

4. What boundries do you need to set to protect yourself from people who are energy drains?

5. Are there any relationships in your life that you need to let go?

Remember as you let go of relationships that do not serve you, you are leaving room for new, uplifting relationships to come into your life. Here’s to wonderful, energizing, joyful relationships!

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich
Success Coach for Professional and Executive Women
“When you are ready to go from burned out to fired up!”
Try out the FREE “How to Discover Your Passion-filled Work” eclass at http://Passionfilledwork.com.

“Life is demanding of me,’Start again. Begin new things. Again set to work to build your world.’” Jean Toomer

“Go within every day and find the inner strength so that the world will not blow your candle out.” Katherine Dunham

Coaching Questions:

1.What would you like to change in your life this year?

2.What are you happy with in your life?

3.What do you do to gain inner strength so that your dreams stay alive?

4.What is the one life-changing goal you will focus on this year?

Happy New Year! As you set your goals for the new year don’t forget to look back at all you accomplished in 2006. Get out a piece of paper and write down all the victories you experienced both large and small. Now you will begin the new year with feelings of success and motivation. May this be a wonderful year for you!

Dance with Joy,
Leanna Fredrich
Success Coach for Executive and Professional Women
“When you are ready to go from burned out to fired up!”
Try out the FREE “How to Find Your Passion-filled Life’s Work.” eclass at http://www.Passionfilledwork.com.

“Growth is exciting; growth is dynamic and alarming. Growth of the soul, growth of the mind.” Vita Sackville-West

Curiosity will conquer fear even more than bravery will.” James Stephens

December brings lots of opportunity for curiosity. After all what is in those presents? How will your loved one react when they see the gift you chose for them? Curiosity keeps the mind and spirit young and encourages a feeling of aliveness.

Coaching Questions:

1. When was the last time you were curious about something?

2. What were you curious about?

3. Go on a “curiosity-outing” and see how many things you see that you are curious about?

4. How does being curious make you feel?

5. How can you turn some of that fear of setting huge goals into curiosity?

Have a holiday filled with curiosity! (Doesn’t that sound mysterious?)

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich
Success Coach for Executive and Professional Women
“When you are ready to go from burned out to fired up!”
coach@LeannaFredrich.com
http://www.leannafredrich.com/

Many of us feel like if we hit an obstacle on the way to our goals that is a sign that we are headed the wrong way or that we will never make it. The fact is that coming upon obstacles is a natural part of reaching our goals. In fact if there are no difficulties it is most often a sign that we aimed too low. So welcome those obstacles, greet them and keep moving!

Coaching Questions:

1. What obstacles have you overcome in your past?

5. What attitude do you need to have to be successful as you reach obstacles?

Have a wonderful November!

Dance with Joy,
Leanna Fredrich
Success Coach for Executive and Professional Women
“When you are ready to go from burned out to fired up!”