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I was recently interviewed by Dr. Mary Ayers about how I use EFT to help my clients get past the  sabotage which raises its ugly head as they begin searching for work they love.  This interview is the first of four that I will post.  If you have questions about EFT go to my new website dedicated to this powerful technique, http://efttappingcenter.com.

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Dance with Joy,
Leanna Fredrich, Life Coach
Leanna@AmazingMondays.com

Nothing changes until you do. Unknown

My inner world creates my outer world. T. Harv Eker

Thinking it Through…

We all have stories that we tell over and over. They are the stories that drive our family crazy as we share them at every public get together. However annoying those stories may be to our loved ones, they are usually quite harmless. Unfortunately, many of us have stories which we tell that are devastating to our lives. For example, a friend of mine is always saying how tired she is. (By the way, she has been thoroughly checked out by multiple doctors and has a clean bill of health.) One day I decided to count how many times she mentioned her exhaustion. After I hit a dozen in a half hour I was too worn out to continue! This behavior is called “Story Fondling” by the best-selling author and Coach, Martha Beck. We tell the same story out loud or in the quiet of our minds over and over and over. “I don’t have enough money.” “I’m old.” “I’m not smart.” Sadly enough we are programming our minds with these negative beliefs and as we do, the beliefs become a self-fulfilling prophecy. So often “story fondling” keeps us sad, discouraged and preoccupied with a mournful past or a frightening future. As we run that well-worn story track , we are missing out on opportunities and joy in the present moment.

Think for a minute… Do you spend time “story fondling?” If you are not sure ask a very honest close friend or family member. Is that story serving you in a positive way? My droopy-eyed friend is served in a way by her “exhaustion story.” It gives her a ready made excuse to cop out on life and go to bed. But at what cost? She is missing out on so much and the world is missing out on benefiting from her unique gifts and strengths which she is too tired to share. Take this month to notice your stories and change them to serve you. You are the author of those stories after all so it is your right to change them!

Challenge:

1. What stories are you fondling?
2. Are they serving you in a positive way?
3. If not, then how can you change your stories to positively impact your life?
4. What stories do you need to tell yourself to easily create the life you desire?

Dance with Joy,

Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach

PS: If you are trying to change your stories and find yourself stuck email me at Leanna@AmazingMondays.com.

“I have lived a long life and had many troubles, most of which never happened. Mark Twain

Worry is like an April Fool’s Joke without the laughs! Leanna Fredrich

Anxiety is nothing… but repeatedly re-experiencing failure in advance. What a waste. Seth Godin

Thinking it Through…

Since I have been working lately on coauthoring a book about using the wisdom of your body I have become much more aware of my body sensations. For example when I wake up in the morning, usually the first sensation I notice is a racy or tight feeling in my stomach. Usually these sensations point to fear and anxiety. So early in the morning?! So then I asked myself what was causing those feelings? The answer was worry. Sometimes I’m worried about something specific but I am quite ashamed to say that often it is just random,undefined worry. I’m afraid that I have a wee bit of a worry habit. There’s a good chance I was born with the natural talent of worrying. Perhaps that is what kept my ancestors alive and well ahead of the jaws of a saber-tooth tiger but in this “kinder, gentler” time, worry is hurting not helping me. Sadly for me, since I am so good at it, worry is a huge waste of time as it doesn’t solve a thing and most often what I am worried about won’t happen anyway.

So here are a few tools from a “Professional Worrier” (Me!) to help fill your life with more peace and less worry.

Write it down! You can do this anytime you catch yourself worrying. Instead of letting the worries spin around in your head write them down. It is amazing how small and impotent they look on paper.

Start the day with gratitude. I’ve noticed the knot in my stomach begins to loosen as I start listing things I am grateful for. I do this the minute my eyes open in the morning. That must be why being grateful for my warm bed is so often on my list!

Take action! If I am worried about something that I can and need to take action towards then the sooner I do it the better I feel. All of a sudden the worry leaves and in it’s place is accomplishment and focus.

Take time for quiet. It is essential for chronic worriers (and actually everyone) to allow themselves space to relax and meditate. That may look like a peaceful walk in the spring air or listening to guided meditations or perhaps driving in silence to work. Allowing the mind to stop racing is strong medicine for a worrier’s life.

Challenge:

1. How much time are you wasting with worry?

2. Check in with your stomach several times a day. Do you have butterflies or a tight feeling?

3. Take one of the steps above and check in again. Does your stomach feel more relaxed?

Dance with Joy,
Leanna Fredrich
Life Coach
Leanna@AmazingMondays.com